The much talked about, forbidden relationship, a ‘live-in’ relationship. The subject of the relationship is a very disapproving subject even before the people involved in it are discussed. India in 2009 is actually still waking up to live-in relationships.
It is a personal decision to live-in or not. The first thing that strikes us as the typical Indian is the close proximity of the male and the female but most often a live-in arrangement arises from a security, financial and / or a poignant rationale. The objective behind a live-in is very simple. Two people just WANT to live together. Why do we need to have questions in our mind when the people involved do so happily and without guilt. When will we wake up to the dictum. ‘Live and let live’.
There is no legal necessity for a live-in arrangement and it’s rather a good way to find out if two people are compatible and want to live with each other with a legal bonding, marriage. A marriage is great if it’s happy but what happens when two people are bonded in a legal prospect which is severely sorrowful? Then comes the ordeal to manage the occurrence of divorce. That can be mentally exhausting and miserable for both people.
As parents, one can ONLY ensure to give our offspring’s a very steady upbringing with the right edification. The generation gap that used to be between parents and kids yesteryears do not exist anymore and it’s in the best interest of both that the relationship and proximity be kept close so that the child enlightens the parents about his / her plans and deeds so that the matter can be discussed to a impartial conclusion.
The hue and cry over a ‘live-in’ relationship according to me is overstated and magnified. It can be a wrong decision sometimes, but it can also be right! So we should not be judgmental and try our best to be unbiased and indifferent till we are asked for help or opinion. Lastly, a live-in relation is not a crime or a detrimental act that it needs any legalization. It is for two adults, independent and mentally stable to decide if what they are doing is right or wrong and if they are willing to shoulder the responsibility.
12.31 am
16th February, 2009
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2 comments:
That was a free spirited piece. Lovely. I like people who don't force their views on others. I came by your website through msn. Saw some other articles too. Keep writing. Its very honest and innocent.
Jeet
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